A touching true story of parenting and the power of forgiveness. Discover how a father’s humility healed his son and revealed grace through the Holy Spirit.
A Father’s Lesson Begins
Parenting and the power of forgiveness are two lessons I never truly understood until I learned them from my own son. In today’s world, where parenting feels more complex than ever, we try our best to guide our children while silently praying we’re doing it right. Yet sometimes, God uses the very ones we are raising to teach us lessons that no book or seminar ever could.
This is one of those lessons — a true story between a father and his son. It’s about obedience to the quiet prompting of the Holy Spirit, the healing power of forgiveness, and how grace can restore what pride once wounded.
Parenting in Uncharted Times
Parenting has never been more complicated than it is today. We’re raising children in a noisy, unpredictable world — a generation shaped by screens, speed, and shifting values. There are no perfect manuals, only real people trying their best while praying for wisdom.
Even teachers and counsellors admit they’re still figuring things out. So what happens when the people you expect to have answers are searching for them too?
That’s why I’ve learned that parenting isn’t something mastered in a classroom — it’s something learned on your knees. The challenges our children face are new, but the voice that guides us through them is timeless: the Holy Spirit.
A Moment I Didn’t Expect
One evening, I came home completely exhausted. I greeted my wife and children, exchanged a few words about how the day went, and was about to head to bed when one of my sons looked straight at me and said, “Daddy, I forgive you.”
Then he hugged me.
I froze. My first instinct was confusion. Forgive me? For what? My wife quickly came to my rescue, smiled, and said, “Just accept it first.”
I managed to reply, “Apology accepted. And thank you for forgiving me.” But my mind was racing. I knew this wasn’t random. Something deeper was happening. I told him we’d talk about it later when the time was right.
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The Conversation That Broke Me
The next day, when we were alone, I gently asked, “Son, what did I do that you forgave me for? I want to understand so it won’t happen again.”
His answer stunned me. He said, “Daddy, remember some weeks ago when you came to my room and asked for my forgiveness? I didn’t respond then, but after you left, I told myself I would never forgive you.”
That word — never — hit me like a stone. I listened quietly, but inside I was breaking.
He reminded me of something that happened over three years ago — a punishment I gave him for a mistake he made. To me, it was mild and fair. But to him, it wasn’t.
In his words: “That punishment broke me. My friends talked about me, and I buried my head in shame.” As he spoke, I saw how a single moment I thought was small had left a deep wound in his heart.
The Turning Point
He told me that earlier that day, he was listening to Apostle Joshua Selman preach about forgiveness — how unforgiveness can block God’s favor and keep your heart in bondage.
That message touched him in a way none had before. Though he had heard about forgiveness countless times in our church, this time something shifted inside him. That was when he decided to let go — and to tell me, face to face, “Daddy, I forgive you.”
I was speechless. I didn’t defend myself or try to explain my actions. I said, “I’m sorry. Thank you for forgiving me. And thank you for your honesty.”
Then he reminded me of the night, weeks earlier, when I had walked into his room to ask for his forgiveness — even though I didn’t know exactly what I had done. I smiled through tears because what he didn’t realise was that I acted that night under the instruction of the Holy Spirit.
The Spirit had whispered, “Go to him and ask for forgiveness.” It felt strange, even unnecessary, but I obeyed. And now, standing before me weeks later, I was seeing the fruit of that obedience.
The Hidden Lesson in Parenting and the Power of Forgiveness
That day, I realized something every parent should know: you can be right in action but wrong in approach. You can be justified in discipline but still hurt a child’s heart.
I was right to correct him — but the way it landed broke something in him. Because I didn’t see it, he carried that pain silently for years. It became the reason he sometimes resisted my instructions. He wasn’t being rebellious; he was reacting to an unhealed wound.
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The Holy Spirit used that moment to show me that children may forgive slowly, but they never forget easily. Healing comes when love replaces pride and listening replaces assumption.
“You can’t lead a heart you’ve never listened to.”
What the Holy Spirit Taught Me About Parenting and the Power of Forgiveness
The Holy Spirit taught me that parenting is not about control — it’s about connection. It’s not about proving authority — it’s about modelling humility. And sometimes, the greatest lesson we can teach our children is how to say, “I’m sorry.”
When I asked for his forgiveness that night weeks ago, I didn’t know what I was healing — but the Holy Spirit did. He was preparing a restoration I couldn’t have planned by myself.
Since then, I’ve learned that the Holy Spirit is not only the Comforter — He is the Teacher of parents. He knows every child’s heart, every fear, and every language of love. He knows when to speak and when to stay silent, when to discipline and when to embrace.
A Word to Every Parent
Parenting in this generation isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit — because He sees what we can’t.
You may not always understand your child’s silence or reactions, but the Holy Spirit does. He’ll tell you when to kneel instead of argue, when to pray instead of punish, when to hold instead of lecture.
You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to listen because one moment of obedience can heal years of quiet pain.
A Prayer for Parents
Lord, teach us to listen before we speak. Help us see beyond behavior into the hearts of our children. When pride wants to win, let humility lead. When frustration rises, let Your Spirit whisper peace.
May our homes become classrooms of grace — where forgiveness flows freely, and love keeps no record of wrongs. Make us parents after Your heart, guided daily by Your voice. Amen.
My Final Reflection
That night, I learned that my son didn’t need a flawless father — he needed a Spirit-led one. Before God uses us to shape our children, He shapes us through them.
“The Holy Spirit doesn’t just raise our children — He raises us, one lesson at a time.
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Keep growing in grace — one act of love at a time.
We need to be spirit-led parent. Iam so blessed by the topic.
Thank you